The Purpose Of Parenting Is To Teach Our Kids
The Purpose Of Parenting Is To Teach Our Kids

How To Give And Receive Love
Freely, Purely And Unconditionally

Some Questions About Love

Here are a few interesting questions for you:

Number one:

Do you feel you are able to give love
to your maximum ability at this moment?
(Me neither)

Number two:

Do you feel you are able to receive love
at your maximum ability at this moment?
(Me neither again)

Number three:

When you look at a newborn baby
do you feel they are able to give and receive love
to their maximum ability?
(I do too)

Number four:

What do you think happens to change
the pure love of the newborn baby
to the blocked ability to love we experience as adults?

This is the question that is at the core
of the parenting philosophy I share.

Parents Have Tremendous Influence

From the moment they are born
every word we say and everything we do
affects the answer to question number 4.

We have tremendous influence over our children,
especially in the early years.
The way we interact with them forms their
understanding of how the world works.
It also informs them about the nature of love.

Demonstrate Unconditional Love

This is why it is so important for us to do our best
to demonstrate unconditional love to our children.
The more we are able to do this
the more they will grow up believing
they are worthy of love.

Imagine your child answering question 1 & 2
when they are 35 or 40 years old.
What kind of answer do you want them to give?

I want my kid to be able to say:
“Yes, I can give love freely and openly.”

I want her to be able to say:
“I receive love without hesitation.”

The Importance of Setting Powerful Parenting Priorities

From the earliest days of my daughter’s life
I set this as one of my primary priorities.

Setting priorities is an extremely important
part of conscious parenting.
Most of our parenting priorities are handed down to us
by our own parents and the dictates of society.

Only when we start to think about things in a deeper way
are we able to set our own priorities for our kids.

Step Two – Is To Follow Through

Of course after we set the priority
the hard part is in following it.
This is very challenging because
we have to fight against the traditional priorities
that we ourselves were subjected to
and programmed with.

When I decided to make a priority of
inspiring my daughter to be able to
give and receive love in an open and fearless way
I realized I had to set it in front of other priorities.

Putting Love First Means Other Things Come Second

That meant when I was faced with a decision
I could not simply act on habit or instinct.
I had to evaluate it in terms of the priorities that I had set.

Putting love first means putting other things second.
Manners, dishes, homework, bedtime, neatness
and the big one – obedience
all had to come second to making sure
I was creating a foundation of unconditional love
in my daughter’s consciousness.

Its not that I didn’t pay attention to those other things,
it is just that I never
(well almost never)
let them get in the way making her feel loved.

Setting a Foundation of Giving and Receiving Love

I do believe that helping our kids answer
a resounding YES to questions 1 & 2

#1
Do you feel you are able to give love
to your maximum ability at this moment?

#2
Do you feel you are able to receive love
at your maximum ability at this moment?

Is one of the most important aspects of parenting
and worthy of being high up on our list of priorities.

The Purpose Of Parenting Is To Teach Our Kids How To Give And Receive Love Freely, Purely And Unconditionally

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