Found In Your Body
A Journey Within
This past week I attended 5 day
dance intensive workshop
in Buffalo, New York.
The teacher was Alicia Grayson.
She was a masterful facilitator.
She led us brilliantly through a journey
deep into our bodies,
into our hearts and
into the dance.
A Moment of Quiet Connection
One day during lunch I was chatting with her
about a particularly intense dance that I had.
I was describing how I was able to quiet my mind
and let go of the noise that usually
keeps me from deep connection.
I said to her,
“I got lost in my body.”
“Actually Vivek, you got found in your body.”
This change in perspective dramatically altered
the way I thought about my experience.
I realized that my natural state IS being deeply connected.
Being trapped in a world of
thoughts and disconnection
is not who I am in my essence.
And yet I have become so normalized to
the idea of being disconnected from my body
I considered that state as natural.
When my mind was quiet and
I was fully in the dance
I considered it being lost.
Language Reveals Our Feelings
One might argue that it was simply
a common phrase we use,
but I believe that the language we choose
reflects the perspective and feelings we have.
Alicia pointed out that in fact this deep dance
was me finding myself,
finding my truth,
finding my nature.
She didn’t actually use all those words.
She simply said “you were found in your body.”
Great Teachers Introduce Us to Ourselves
As all great teachers do,
she touched me with a magical moment,
allowed me the freedom to process it
and draw my own conclusions.
One of the things I enjoyed most about her teaching
was that she seemed to really believe in each of us.
She knew that we had our own innate wisdom
in our bodies and in our hearts.
She was only working to put us in touch with it.
Children are Naturally Wise and Connected
When we are first born our entire reality is
centered in our bodies and in our connection
to our mother’s body.
There is a wisdom, a love and
a sense of connection
that is natural and essential to who we are.
Disconnection is an Effect of Growing Up
As we enter the world more and more
we are drawn into our heads,
into society and customs.
We are wounded, criticized
and betrayed on a regular basis.
We become distanced from the
innate wisdom that we have inside.
It gets replaced with fear and trauma based reactions.
We rely on manipulation of ourselves and
others to get what we think we want.
We end up believing that
punishment and struggle
are normal, natural and our lot in life.
A Message of Freedom For Me and My Kid
This is not the message I want to hold in my heart.
Nor is it the message I want to pass on to my daughter.
I want us both to know that
all the wisdom and love of the universe
is available to us within our hearts
at this very moment and every moment.
I want us both to believe that
trust and intimacy with others is possible,
beautiful and worth the risk.
I want us both to feel the beauty and joy
of connection with our bodies and nature.
And I want us both to know that all of this
is natural and normal
not the exception.
This is the foundation of my self-development
and spirituality work as well as
the essence of my parenting philosophy.